After I had an aneurysm a few years ago, my wife, Elaine, recognized that something was changing in me, but she thought I just had “selective listening.” In retrospect, we now know it was signs of memory loss because I was diagnosed with dementia in November 2016.
I was retired and just 73 years old. At first, I thought my life was over. Or at the very least, I thought it would change. I was fearful. I didn’t know what would happen and I thought it would be terrible. At the time, my aunt was losing her memory, so I could see in her what I thought would be my future.
But then I realized there was nothing to be ashamed of. Elaine and I deal with problems as they come up. I know I can live with it. You have to get to that point, and it helped that the people around me were understanding. My kids said, “That explains a lot.” They were glad to have an explanation for why their dad was forgetting things.
We told our friends and neighbours so they would know what was going on. One time I didn’t recognize an old friend. When I realized who it was, I told him that I have dementia and there are times I don’t remember who someone is. My friend told me not to be embarrassed, which was great because in our family, we don’t try to disguise who we are. This comes naturally to us because one of our adult children is mentally challenged. We are used to explaining that our son may not be able to do some things, but he can do a lot of other things very well.
I don’t feel stigma, and that may be because I’m still able to go about my day, which includes visiting neighbours because I am a social person. They treat me the same as they always did.
It’s important to understand that getting dementia is nobody’s fault. Elaine and I know that, and we are happy that the people in our lives understand it, too.
Here are my tips to help you understand:
- It helps to put a name on what is happening. Then you know what it is and know that it’s not your fault.
- Your life is not over. For example, I don’t need home care yet, and I am still capable of helping with our mentally challenged son.
- Do the best you can today because you can’t change yesterday, and we don’t know what will happen tomorrow.
- Go to the Alzheimer Society support group. I love it. You get good feedback. You can talk openly. I like to accommodate new people – I like to bring them into the fold.
- If you are a social person, keep getting out and about as much as you can.
Click here to go back and read more local stories.
We sit down with Glen in a 4-part series (coming out each Friday) as he discusses living with the dementia and the importance of having a strong support network. Videos are below:
Part 1: Glen on his memory loss
Part 2: Glen on having supportive friends
Part 3: Glen on Support Groups
Part 4: Glen and Elaine on Getting Support
Visit ilivewithdementia.ca to read more stories from other Canadians who live with dementia.
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After I had an aneurysm a few years ago, my wife, Elaine, recognized that something was changing in me, but she thought I just had “selective listening.” In retrospect, we now know it was signs of memory loss because I was diagnosed with dementia in November 2016.
I was retired and just 73 years old. At first, I thought my life was over. Or at the very least, I thought it would change. I was fearful. I didn’t know what would happen and I thought it would be terrible. At the time, my aunt was losing her memory, so I could see in her what I thought would be my future.
But then I realized there was nothing to be ashamed of. Elaine and I deal with problems as they come up. I know I can live with it. You have to get to that point, and it helped that the people around me were understanding. My kids said, “That explains a lot.” They were glad to have an explanation for why their dad was forgetting things.
We told our friends and neighbours so they would know what was going on. One time I didn’t recognize an old friend. When I realized who it was, I told him that I have dementia and there are times I don’t remember who someone is. My friend told me not to be embarrassed, which was great because in our family, we don’t try to disguise who we are. This comes naturally to us because one of our adult children is mentally challenged. We are used to explaining that our son may not be able to do some things, but he can do a lot of other things very well.
I don’t feel stigma, and that may be because I’m still able to go about my day, which includes visiting neighbours because I am a social person. They treat me the same as they always did.
It’s important to understand that getting dementia is nobody’s fault. Elaine and I know that, and we are happy that the people in our lives understand it, too.
Here are my tips to help you understand:
- It helps to put a name on what is happening. Then you know what it is and know that it’s not your fault.
- Your life is not over. For example, I don’t need home care yet, and I am still capable of helping with our mentally challenged son.
- Do the best you can today because you can’t change yesterday, and we don’t know what will happen tomorrow.
- Go to the Alzheimer Society support group. I love it. You get good feedback. You can talk openly. I like to accommodate new people – I like to bring them into the fold.
- If you are a social person, keep getting out and about as much as you can.
Click here to go back and read more local stories.
We sit down with Glen in a 4-part series (coming out each Friday) as he discusses living with the dementia and the importance of having a strong support network. Videos are below:
Part 1: Glen on his memory loss
Part 2: Glen on having supportive friends
Part 3: Glen on Support Groups
Part 4: Glen and Elaine on Getting Support
Visit ilivewithdementia.ca to read more stories from other Canadians who live with dementia.
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After I had an aneurysm a few years ago, my wife, Elaine, recognized that something was changing in me, but she thought I just had “selective listening.” In retrospect, we now know it was signs of memory loss because I was diagnosed with dementia in November 2016. I was retired and just 73 years old. At first, I thought my life was over. Or at the very least, I thought it would change. I was fearful. I didn’t know what would happen and I thought it would be terrible. At the time, my aunt was losing her memory, so I could see in her what I thought would be my future. But then I realized there was nothing to be ashamed of. Elaine and I deal with problems as they come up. I know I can live with it. You have to get to that point, and it helped that the people around me were understanding. My kids said, “That explains a lot.” They were glad to have an explanation for why their dad was forgetting things. We told our friends and neighbours so they would know what was going on. One time I didn’t recognize an old friend. When I realized who it was, I told him that I have dementia and there are times I don’t remember who someone is. My friend told me not to be embarrassed, which was great because in our family, we don’t try to disguise who we are. This comes naturally to us because one of our adult children is mentally challenged. We are used to explaining that our son may not be able to do some things, but he can do a lot of other things very well. I don’t feel stigma, and that may be because I’m still able to go about my day, which includes visiting neighbours because I am a social person. They treat me the same as they always did. It’s important to understand that getting dementia is nobody’s fault. Elaine and I know that, and we are happy that the people in our lives understand it, too.
Here are my tips to help you understand:- It helps to put a name on what is happening. Then you know what it is and know that it’s not your fault.
- Your life is not over. For example, I don’t need home care yet, and I am still capable of helping with our mentally challenged son.
- Do the best you can today because you can’t change yesterday, and we don’t know what will happen tomorrow.
- Go to the Alzheimer Society support group. I love it. You get good feedback. You can talk openly. I like to accommodate new people – I like to bring them into the fold.
- If you are a social person, keep getting out and about as much as you can.
Click here to go back and read more local stories. We sit down with Glen in a 4-part series (coming out each Friday) as he discusses living with the dementia and the importance of having a strong support network. Videos are below:
Part 1: Glen on his memory loss Part 2: Glen on having supportive friends Part 3: Glen on Support Groups Part 4: Glen and Elaine on Getting Support Visit
ilivewithdementia.ca to read more stories from other Canadians who live with dementia."
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